Wednesday, 13 June 2012

PARENTS : THE BORN KILLERS


The worst thing that could happen to a child is that his parents don’t have faith in him.yes it happens at times  But it took me time to realize it till , when it happened to a friend, who thought that ending the life was all she could do. By saying that “he is nothing but a failure “, you have already killed him. This method of teaching might have worked on you, but is it necessary that it would work on every child as well??? The constant need to do what your parents did to you is nothing but a way to transfer your child hood issues onto them. You need to realize that they are children, your children and should be treated likewise. The feeling of losing support when you wanted it the most, at a time you needed it most, can be the most fatal mistake that you ever make. everything a child dreams of, from his parents, when that comes crashing down, they want to live can often shatter .you should try and realize that everyone in this world is not a genius and for that matter neither are you, then how can you fail to accept that the child has the same blood as you, the same DNA as you .to think that he can be something, you could never be makes you an abuser of the child just like a pedophile. I mean is that what children are for, just to fulfill your wishes, wishes that you couldn’t fulfill by yourself. If that’s the scenario then you don’t need a child, you need a paid laborer, who can do your daily chores and the same time manages to recapture your goodwill in the society. It’s good enough that children are your means to flaunt pride, but to make them your trophies to achieve a fake sense of status in the society, just brings shame to the relationship of a parent and a child. The sacred bond of a parent and child, dented by the sole fact that he couldn’t give a sense of glory is nothing but an effort to make them do something that you couldn’t. Do well …..the words that started everything seem to lose their meaning , the words which initially meant hope you do well , somewhere in between change into you have to do well, for our sake .Although they seem to be your friend , the truth is that , they can never be . The fact that they have been through the same situation doesn’t make s them ease out a bit; rather it makes them do the same thing to their children. I must say that I read somewhere that parenting was hard, but what they forgot to mention was, it was because of children that they became parent, yes a parent which is not a title, nor a position rather a bond which is so easily that it sometimes leads a child to take harsh measures, which often makes parent regret their decisions.

I must say that when these things happen to someone close to you, it makes you realize in what agony that person must have been living in. But that’s it no more shall this continue, my friends , my readers if you are facing the same problems , I advise you not to take harsh steps rather talk to somebody and if you have none then mail me , I’ll be there for you ………

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